Here at Helping Hands Montessori we focus on positive interactions. Sometimes in a hard situation with our kids, or with anyone really, it is hard to remember positive things to say. When our "lizard brain" kicks in because the action of someone else has triggered an irrational response from us, not going into fight, flight, or freeze mode is especially challenging. This is why we created the document "60 Positive Things You Can Say to Your Child".
When life is calm, practice saying these things to your loved ones, including your own inner child. Then, when life gets a little more challenging, you can have the prompt up where you can get ideas. We hope this helps to reiforce positive interactions while setting and holding firm boundaries.